Online dating and flaking
Perhaps they planned their meals accordingly or cleaned their house.) How should you handle a flake?At some point, you can’t make someone follow through, if they’re not interested.The only way to stop a woman from being flaky with you is to make her feel a LOT of attraction when you meet her. I scheduled a coffee date for 1 PM Thursday with someone on Bumble. Earlier this month, there was an Op Ed in the New York Times called The Golden Age of Bailing. My grandmother just got bubonic plague.…’” Whether it’s canceling on someone at the last minute, which so many of my own dates and my clients’ dates have done, or ghosting (the deplorable act of “ending” a romantic relationship by simply no longer responding), remember that no matter what you call them, they are still bad—very bad—behaviors.You don’t accept flaky behavior because you’re not a flake. Since diving into the online dating world over five years ago, I’ve had my share of great experiences.–They organized their day with the anticipation of seeing you.(That means working out in the morning and packing date clothes.
Ask yourself three questions: 1) Are they sincere in making another date with clear details? My anxiety would be through the roof, if I thought someone had set aside time to be with me, and I hadn’t officially canceled.) The bottom line: People will flake, and sometimes there’s little you can do about it.
Sure, there are valid reasons to cancel—your child is sick, work put an unexpected deadline on you, your pet snake Marcy got into a catfight—but even if you have one of these valid reasons, remember that your time is no more valuable than someone else’s. If you need to cancel the day of the date, call the person. Just last night, a client told me that her date canceled on her 45 minutes before a date—via text—with nary an apology in sight.