Dating seven years not married
Yes, this is most certainly one of those “easier said than done” situations, but I mostly find that to be a convenient excuse not to make the tough decision.
Often times women declare reasons for staying like “I’ve invested so much time in this relationship I don’t want to start over now” or “I don’t want to walk away from him now and then he marries the next chick that comes along.” But if a woman wants to be married and has waited 10 (or more) years in hopes of eventually being married to that man, it’s probably not going to happen.
If a woman is dating a man for 10 years (or more), she has every right to ask that man if marriage is on the table.
Nope that makes it sound like I am the one who is lucky and let me tell you, I am not.) See, I have a bit of a history. Sometimes they’re married within months of us breaking up. So I guess what I want to ask is: What the fuck is wrong with me? Plenty more fish in the sea, blah, blah, blah.” You’d be right of course.Mr First Love taught me that with love comes pain, but I’d rather have had both than neither.Mr Athlete taught me to trust my instincts and listen to my gut.Where women tend to make their mistake is by not making it clear at some point during the relationship what it is they want and what it is they’re looking for.
People, in general, seem to think there’s something wrong with setting up guidelines from day one and making people adhere to those guidelines.
I’m of the mind that since women who want to get married see it as an important milestone in their life, it’d behoove them to make their feelings about that known upfront. If you want something from somebody, you have to say so because, contrary to popular belief, men don’t read minds.