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Taking their feelings into account is good, but don’t forget that they have their own lives to mind and should leave the minding of yours to you. Try to avoid a revolving door of dates where underage kids are concerned.If you weren’t living your life by committee prior to your spouse’s death, don’t start now. Only introduce them to people you feel you have a future with, and when you do, expect them to behave like well-brought up humans. If problems arise with adult children, remind them that they should spend their time and energy minding their own lives.A few weeks ago I attended the LA chapter of the National Survivors After Suicide Loss Day. Never tell a sibling they could get another brother or sister. With a spouse or a partner or a “just” a girlfriend or boyfriend (and really, they almost get the shortest end of the stick. I’m remarried now to a man who never once has asked me to forget about my past.I spoke on a general panel about loss to suicide and co-facilitated a break-out group for those who have lost partners/spouses. Wouldn’t tell someone to adopt a random older person to act as their parent. It was clear in the months after my late husband’s death – the questions about if I was ready for a set up or a profile. Of course boyfriends and girlfriends are totally replaceable…), it is expected that the pain ends when you replace the person you lost. People actually think your lost love can be replaced. Never once told me my late husband needs to be excised from my life. I relish the thought of being able to introduce his family to my children in person one day – not just through email and social media.
Widowed with children date and remarry with ease or not depending on the age of the children, and believe it or not – adult children can be the worst to deal with when it comes to dating and remarriage with teenagers coming in an unsurprising second. At what magical point in the days, weeks or month after a spouse dies is dating permitted?The question comes up a lot among widowed and those who are interested in dating them – how soon after the death of a spouse is it considered appropriate to begin dating/or pursuing? Other widowed people like to trot out the tired cliché – It’s such a circular and unhelpful answer that I’d like to ban the phrase from the grief lexicon because given the minefield of rules and expectations surrounding widowhood, asking is the only way to clarify whether the signals you are receiving from your peers, family and friends are about your welfare or their self-interest. Scarlett knew the rules on widowed decorum because society at that time spelled it out. It may have sucked, but everyone was clear on the time frame and waited (while perhaps discreetly lining up suitors for once the deadline had passed). Younger widowed date and remarry sooner, and at higher rates, than older ones. Attempted to look resolute and somber, smiling wanly as you sat out your “black-shirted” year on the wallflower bench. Whereas the newly broken up or divorced are free to take the field again as soon as they like, the widowed must navigate religious, family and community rules on the subject, and they vary. But, having children or not, being younger or older and your general state of resiliency in the face of tragedy plays into this as well.Widowed who are truly ready to date do not use their widowhood to control the pace of a relationship or coerce their girl/boyfriends into accepting unilateral terms of engagement.
Playing the widow card in the relationship arena is a no-no. Some widowed find contentment and even a lot of joy in being single and unattached.
Our relationship began online, and as friends, but when it was clear to us that this could be more, we deliberately took that step, kept moving forward and haven’t looked back. More widowed than will admit to it try to date at some point within the first year.