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Another complaint the original Urban Dater author had was that many guys subscribe to a double-standard regarding anal penetration.
“I know men that freak out when people even joke about going near their anal cavity,” she writes, “yet have no problem encouraging a woman to take it up the ass.” I actually tend to agree with her on this particular gripe, although I believe there is a far more complex system at work here for which it is not entirely fair to blame men as individuals.
I’m sure there are many more reasons why a woman might enjoy anal sex, but frankly I don’t really care about them.
If someone tells me they like something, I am prone to believing them.
Some men enjoy external stimulation only, such as analingus or anal massage, and other guys don’t find any pleasure there at all.
A man has just as much right to his preference for certain sexual acts over others as a woman does because we are all human beings who enjoy different things.
In 2010, the Journal of Sexual Medicine published the results of a national sex survey stating 20 percent of women in their 20s and 30s copped to having anal sex within the past year, with one-third of those women having had it within the past month. Anal sex outscored cunnilingus.” Of course, correlation doesn’t equate causation.
But maybe you believe that one in every five women is faking it in order to look cool. “Among women who had vaginal sex in their last encounter, the percentage who said they reached orgasm was 65. Some folks theorize that it is the orgasms (resulting from oral, manual or vaginal sex) that satisfy and relax women enough for them to be open to anal penetration, rather than the anal sex that is causing orgasms. If people are happy and fucking and coming, who are we to tell them they’re not actually enjoying themselves?
So yeah, I vote with my vag in cases like those and instead choose to fuck people who are more comfortable with themselves, which is my prerogative as well as the author’s in selecting our respective partners.
Men are held to such rigid standards of masculinity that often imply that any behavior that might appear “gay” or “feminine,” such as being the penetratee rather than the penetrator, is a threat to their very status as a man.
That’s particularly fucked up when you think about it because it means men are being conditioned to fear one of their own body parts.
I’m not sure anal sex will ever feel let’s say “soothing” to me in the way that cunnilingus does, but it is the pain, the sacrifice and the extremism of it that turns me on. Don’t judge.) The idea that only men are sexual thrill-seekers while women are tasked with the duty of either fending off or reluctantly indulging their porn-like preferences is just wrong and unfair.
Plenty of women also enjoy the psychological thrill of sex that is different.While there seems to be no data explicitly on female anal orgasms (shocking, I know.